To Build or Not to Build?

Written by: Ella B.

One of the most difficult decisions during our decision-making process to quit our jobs was the fact that we were in the process of building a house. We have been married for seven years and this would have been our first house purchased together. We started the build process in February 2018. The house would have been completed in August/September. This was a big deal for us as this would mean we would be setting roots somewhere for a long time.

Trust me, we had many conversations about this and asked, should we continue the build process, wait it out, purchase the house and then quit our jobs? In the beginning, we said yes, let’s just work until the end of the year and then we can figure it out from there. The timeline of work until the end of the year, then became, okay, let’s work until we close on the house and then we can go from there. Each day, waking up to go to jobs where we were both unhappy became increasingly harder and harder. I was unhappy because this wasn’t what I wanted to do with my life. He was unhappy for other reasons (he’ll tell his version in a later post.)

During the week of May 14th, we spent several hours each night talking about next steps and what to do with the house. We both decided, let’s just wait it out, build the house and then we can quit. We can make it a few more months in our jobs, can’t we?

Our builder reached out to us as our foundation was being poured on May 18th. We went to go visit the house on May 20th.  

 

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This is the photo that made me really think, is this going to make us happy? The answer was NO!

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We were both smiling in the photo but in reality, it wasn’t true happiness. We were just going through the motions because this is what adults do right??? Persevere through and make it work. This is the American Dream.

We went to work on Monday, May 21st, and this was the text message I sent my husband.

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We talked that night and made the decision to quit our jobs. I gave my notice on May 22, 2018! This for me was perfect timing as my boss just so happen to be in town that week and I wanted to do this in person. I didn’t dislike my company, role or the people I work with. In my heart of hearts, I knew this was the right decision.

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To Build or Not to Build?

One of the most difficult decisions during our decision-making process to quit our jobs was the fact that we were in the process of building a house. We have been married for seven years and this would have been our first house purchased together. We started the build process in February 2018. The house would have been completed in August/September. This was a big deal for us as this would mean we would be setting roots somewhere for a long time.

Trust me, we had many conversations about this and asked, should we continue the build process, wait it out, purchase the house and then quit our jobs? In the beginning, we said yes, let’s just work until the end of the year and then we can figure it out from there. The timeline of work until the end of the year, then became, okay, let’s work until we close on the house and then we can go from there. Each day, waking up to go to jobs where we were both unhappy became increasingly harder and harder. I was unhappy because this wasn’t what I wanted to do with my life. He was unhappy for other reasons (he’ll tell his version in a later post.)

During the week of May 14th, we spent several hours each night talking about next steps and what to do with the house. We both decided, let’s just wait it out, build the house and then we can quit. We can make it a few more months in our jobs, can’t we?

Our builder reached out to us as our foundation was being poured on May 18th. We went to go visit the house on May 20th.  

 

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This is the photo that made me really think, is this going to make us happy? The answer was NO!

IMG_0634

We were both smiling in the photo but in reality, it wasn’t true happiness. We were just going through the motions because this is what adults do right??? Persevere through and make it work. This is the American Dream.

We went to work on Monday, May 21st, and this was the text message I sent my husband.

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We talked that night and made the decision to quit our jobs. I gave my notice on May 22, 2018! This for me was perfect timing as my boss just so happen to be in town that week and I wanted to do this in person. I didn’t dislike my company, role or the people I work with. In my heart of hearts, I knew this was the right decision.

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